Why Mothers Are Leaders

Why mothers are leaders

Corporate leaders have a lot to learn from mothers. Gratefully, modern society is learning that mothers contribute significant value to local and global communities.

I argue that a mother’s most valuable trait is leadership.

Not only do mothers have to deal with the difficult, and sometimes impossible, odds of living in a world accustomed to men, they succeed with grit and determination as well. I submit that mothers are society’s best leaders.

Behind the diapers and baby bottles, there is a mom whose success directly impacts our community. Isn’t that what leaders do? Aren’t leaders supposed to make an impact? Here’s my take on why leadership is a mother’s most valuable trait.

Mothers Know How To Prioritize

Growing up, my mom had a monthly calendar displayed next to the kitchen table. My mom put everything on that calendar, and it honestly looked like a confusing mess.

However, I cannot recall when she forgot to pick one of us up from baseball practice, piano lessons, or church activity. Not only did she have those things, but she also balanced the budget, made insurance calls, fought with schools, negotiated appointment times, and still had enough time to help us with homework.

A mother’s schedule centers on the affairs of the family, which is a difficult task. She chooses which is the essential task to accomplish at the moment.

Often, mothers have to choose between a shower or doing laundry. Mothers also have the impossible decision to take care of children by being a stay-at-home mother or working full-time.

How can a mother make an impossible decision while under society’s scrutiny? It’s because leaders don’t lead to please others.

True leaders do what’s right for the common good. Mothers do what’s right for the common good.

Mothers have to prioritize. The most important task is the one that the mom accomplishes. Mothers have to shift focus often because of the competing demands on their time.

Despite this challenge, mothers often adapt to their changing environments because it is the right thing to do, rather than out of convenience.

Why mothers are leaders

Photo by Yan Krukov

Mothers Know Sacrifice Better Than Anyone

Mothers do this every day. They have to sacrifice their time, talents, and energy for the betterment of society’s future. Their child/children will go out to corporate one day and get blasted by an unforgiving working world.

Yet, mothers choose to teach their children the necessary social skills, cultural norms, and grit that is necessary to succeed in life. That sacrifice is substantial.

The tragedy behind a mother’s sacrifice is that society does not fully acknowledge it. In the United States, anyway, we have pitifully low maternity days following a child’s birth compared to other countries. Some policies are only three months before having to return to work.

Also, paternity days are virtually non-existent for fathers, which further burdens the mother. So the sacrifice increases. If a new mother does not have familial support, the sacrifice is even greater.

The Lonely Burden of Leadership

Good Leaders also sacrifice and bear burdens alone. Leadership is lonely, and mothers carry that loneliness often. Their partners have to go to work following the birth of a child. The children are misbehaving, and she’s the only one to quell the disruption.

Each of these, and more, are difficult challenges that mothers face each day. She has to navigate these difficulties with the support systems that she has. However, the most difficult challenge of all is that she cannot quit.

Conversely, employees and leaders alike can change their jobs whenever their current employment is insufficient. With some time and resources, people can change their profession with relative fluidity.

Mothers do not have this convenience. Their whole world relies on them. Quitting is not an option.

I’ll give one last example of sacrifice. In Simon Sinek’s book Leaders Eat Last, he talks about the Marine Corps and how the Marines line up to eat.

Chow Lines, or marines lining up to receive their meals, is a ritual for the Marine Corps and the military. The lowest ranking person is the first to go through the chow line, followed by each subsequent rank until the most senior ranking individuals.

Mothers do this every day. They prepare each meal for their child/children and sit down to eat only after the children have their food. And, mothers get interrupted with the constant requests for condiments or child unappreciation. The mother eats last because she knows that she’s a leader.

Mothers Are Resourceful

Tapping into a network is critical in the professional world. Employees bring value to companies because of their connections.

Similarly, mothers engage in similar networking activities. Social media pages are full of motherhood advice, baby products, and activities for kids. Moms plan for these things because their friends tell them about their activities to entertain children.

Mothers take advantage of their social circles. They faithfully contribute to their friends and ask for advice/help when they need it. It’s a critical give/take system that mothers need.

Leaders do this all of the time. As stated in Robert Cialdini’s book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, the reciprocity rule is underway in the corporate world just as much as a mother’s social circle.

If mothers can execute this at a smaller scale, then they’re capable of doing it elsewhere too.

Conclusion

Mothers understand prioritizing, sacrificing, and resourcing just as well as anyone. They manage a home and a family with precision. Moreover, they are the ones that are leading every day.

Mothers have more quantifiable days of leadership experience than most do in a corporate setting.

I hope that the human resources representatives at companies consider the experience of ‘homemaker’ on a resume. Also, mothers must be recognized as active contributors to society and the economy as a whole. Mothers play a significant role in our society, as leaders.

What leadership traits have you seen displayed by your mother at home? Please leave them in the comments below. Thanks for reading!

Books Mentioned

Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek. Read a review here.

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini.

Photo Credit

Featured Image: Julia M. Cameron

1: Anastasia Shuraeva

2: Yan Krukov

3: Alexander Suhorucov

4: William Fortunato

6 thoughts on “Why Mothers Are Leaders”

  1. Cassandra says:

    Robert,

    As a mother in the corporate world, your article resonated loudly with me. I often wonder why more employers do not acknowledge the experience and capability of mothers, especially those with little traditional work experience but who are managing children, a household, a husband, parents and sometimes even siblings!! The skills and competencies that a mother acquires are very specialist. The intangible skills like empathy and multi-tasking have to be learned in today’s workplace but for many mothers, it is the only way to effectively accomplish what they have to and therefore becomes second nature.

    We really appreciate the recognition.

    1. Robert says:

      Cassandra,

      Indeed, mothers are very specialized. It’s a difficult career to be a homemaker, and society takes that for granted I believe. I’m glad this article resonated with you!

      Robert

  2. Jason says:

    A nice post Robert. Whilst it might be a maternal thing and somewhat instinctive for many women, I know many men, myself included that would in no way stack up against many mums when put to the test. Unsung hero’s I guess. If only they got greater recognition and it paid a little better – dollar wise that is!

    1. Robert says:

      Jason,

      I believe you’re right! I would say the same thing. Thank you for your comment!

      Robert

  3. Habib says:

    This is quite an emotive post. All of a sudden I started missing my mum and had to ring her! I have learnt a great deal of life skills from my mother who has ran the house and brought us up seamlessly. I am really grateful for that. I’m also grateful for my management who also happen to be females. We are stronger than we know or anyone else knows.

    Sending my best wishes to you

    1. Robert says:

      Habib,

      Thank you for talking about how well your mom ran your childhood home! It certainly is a difficult job, and they’re great leaders in our society. Mothers are worth highlighting for their accomplishments. Thank you for your comment!

      Robert

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